Who Is a Friend
Friends can be a life saver and they can also be a nightmare. Choose them carefully because the wrong ones can ruin your life.
I used to have a lot of friends. If we weren’t chatting on the phone, we would be at each other’s houses, out shopping, eating, partying, driving or just sitting in the park together. We laughed together, cried together, shared secrets and lived in each other’s pockets. Those were the days. Now I can count the friends that are still in my life, on one hand. As you mature you learn to discern the good from the bad. You keep what’s needed and give up what has or could become a hinderance to your progress and development.
One of my daughters was very popular at school and had many, many friends. They stayed at our house for sleepover, visited most weekends and hanged out with her after school. That was until the day they disowned her. It was all to do with something that happened one evening after school. It got so blown out of proportion that all of her friends, except one, stopped talking to her. They bullied her and some even threatened her life. I had to take her out of school for a while. She ended up leaving school without having any friends.
You need friends in your life but they should be an asset, not a liability. True friends will be there for you, no matter what you go through. Likewise you should also make sure that you are a good friend to your friends. Friendship is about giving and taking, sharing and caring.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ~Henri Nouwen
The Friend Who Is Always There For You
There will always be a time when you are sad, depressed, confused or just fed up with the challenges of life. During those times you need someone to talk to, actively listen to you and .
You always know who your true friends are in times of trouble. When you’re at your lowest and you have no money, how many people want to know you then? Who can you turn to for help?
When you have money and life is good, everyone wants to be your friend. They’re always at your house eating and drinking with you. When the tide turns and you’re down, some friends will keep you under their feet. Look to the friend that will pull you up and help you to dust yourself off and start again. Unfortunately, those friends are few and far in between.
“There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24
I’ve got a few friends who are always there for me. I can call them anytime of the day or night and they will help me if I need help. They don’t judge me and will always give, even when they don’t have enough for themselves. In return, I will always do my best to be there for them when they need support. When friends show you love, it’s hard not to love them back.
The Friend Who Has A Shoulder For You To Cry On.
There are no guarantees in life except death. All of us will have to deal with pain or grief sooner or later. It’s difficult to face those hurdles alone. When you’re struggling, hurting or grieving, you will need a friend for support.
If you lose loved ones through death or separation or lose your job or home, you will need a shoulder to cry on. These are the times when you will appreciate the friend who provides a big shoulder, or even cry with you. A sympathetic friend who will patiently listen to you talk about your loss, is a blessing. The friend who will put up with you repeating yourself a million times about the same thing, is a true friend. They will empathise with you, share your pain and help you get through difficult periods.
The Friend Who Makes You laugh
This friend will always cheer you up. They’re lively, outgoing and fun to be with. They constantly tell jokes and make you laugh. Their bubbly personality is contagious! When you’re around them, they always uplift your spirit. You can’t help but enjoy being in their company.
I’ve got a friend that always seem to attract an atmosphere for laughing. When we’re together strange, unplanned events seem to happen around us.
This is one of the occasions when laughter invaded our company. We went out for lunch one afternoon. After we finished the main course we went to get some fruit crumble and custard, but the custard was finished. Luckily, one of the cooks told us to wait while she made a fresh jug of custard. We waited for about two minutes. The head cook strolled over to us with a serious look on her face. She casually told us not to wait, because no more custard was being made.
Disappointed, we started to walk away. Suddenly a waitress came along carrying a large carton in her hands. I asked her if it was custard, and she nodded yes.
“Is it hot?” She nodded yes again. This lady didn’t speak or understood English very well. As she started to pour from the carton, I realised that it was cream and not custard. I told her to stop pouring. My friend and I were trying our hardest not to laugh.
We decided not to bother with the custard thing and went to get cheesecakes instead. We paid for our cheesecakes. We were just about to sit when someone called us back. It was the first cook. She had a fresh jug of custard in her hands and a smile on her face.
“Where are you going?” she asked. “I told you I was going to make custard for you!” My friend and I looked at each other in disbelief. To cut a long story short, we took back the cheesecakes, got a refund and paid for the fruit crumbles with custard.
By the time we got back to our tables, we were in stitches. We laughed so hard that my friend’s voice was hoarse. If I was with another friend, they might not have seen the funny side to the fruit crumble and custard scenario.
Laughing is good. It helps to lighten the stresses of life. If you haven’t got a friend who can make you laugh, you should find one.
The Friend Who Motivates You
The friend who motivates me is my eldest daughter. Whenever I tell her that I can’t do something, she reassure me that I can. She always sees the positive in negative situations and always has answers for questions.
In the process of setting up this blog I nearly gave up a few times. I found the technical side of it quite difficult. However, she encouraged me to persevere. After I eventually got it all working, I still had doubts. I wasn’t sure if anyone would read my articles. I thought they were too general and not focused enough because most blogs focus on one specific topic. My daughter told me to carry on doing what I was doing, because it’s good to be different.
I listened to her advice. I’m glad that I didn’t give up. I know that some people find this blog useful and that’s all that matters.
I’ve got a male friend who also inspires me towards achieving my goals. He makes me feel that I can do anything I want to do.
You need supportive friends to motivate you when you’re faced with challenges or uncertainty. They will help you to attain your dreams and fulfil your purpose in life.
Make a friend happy by sharing this article to show you care. Please leave your comments. They are always valued and appreciated.
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