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Success: Should You Fake it Till You’ve Got it?

Success: Should You Fake it Till You’ve Got it?

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The definition of success is relative. It means different things to different people. But measuring one’s success by the standards of others is a deadly trap that many people easily fall into. When this happens, a life of deception follows. What’s more, it slowly leads you into self-discontentment and depression.


Living a fake life moves you no closer to your dream life. But, a lot further from it. Is it really worth the effort? Should you fake success to meet the standards of others, for their acceptance?




And here is why.


5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Fake Success


  • It kills your dreams

Yes. While you strive to seem made and successful, you leave your true dreams to suffer. You’re busy trying to get in on the deal of others’ achievements and appear to be like them. Yet, you begin to shift away from your own dreams and goals in life. Eventually, you won’t find them any longer.


  • It keeps you in a rut of harmful habits 

Ever heard you need another lie to cover up one lie? Living a fake life affords you that luxury. Just that the luxury harms rather than pampers you. You lie to cover up inconsistencies with the fake life. You lie to your loved ones and to yourself. As a result, this injures your trustworthiness. Or how do you explain you’ve bought a new car you can’t afford to a friend/sibling without lying?  You know that they know you can’t afford it.

Other harmful habits include uncontrolled spending (often to show off), borrowing to fund your spending, bragging, etc.


  • It weakens your self-worth

Pretending to have attained a particular level of success cheapens your appreciation for your real one. In your eyes, your achievements pale in comparison to those of others. Rather than having a healthy desire for continuous self-development, you get into the rat race. You strive to join others and even beat them at all costs.


  • You don’t really win people’s acceptance

People actually don’t like competition. They accept you and admire you when you build up your own success story. But when you try too hard to ‘show them what you’ve got’, it keeps them on the alarm. They only accept you so they can get to see how far you’ve really gone. As soon as they discover that you are faking it, they may never want to have anything to do with you again.


  • It shifts your focus off God

God is not in the business of creating robots. He created you uniquely and endows you with all you need to achieve success on your own terms and in His own way. Faking success to win the approval of others shifts your focus of Him. You no longer seek His guidance or help. Therefore, your actions are guided by what you think will lead you to get the acceptance you seek, instead of what He wills.


So, instead of faking success, what should you do?


  1. Aim for God’s acceptance

 God is interested in you as a person – your struggles, your achievement, your failures, your wins. He loves you with all of them. And He will never demand of you except that which He has empowered you to become. So, seek to please Him above all else.


  1. Believe in yourself

 Develop a healthy self-esteem. Continually lean on God’s empowerment to achieve whatever you set your heart to.


  1. Consistently cheer your success and learn from your falls

 Don’t dwell on your failures longer than you dwell on your wins. Celebrate even your ‘little’ wins and reward yourself. When something doesn’t turn out as you expect, sit down to assess why and learn how to do it right.


  1. Determine to build a healthy network and work at keeping it.

 Surround yourself with people who motivate you to help you improve. But also appreciate your here and now. Also, keep working on building lasting relationships with them.


  1. Embrace excellence, not perfection

Perfection is a journey, excellence gets you there. Put in excellent work in all you do, while you keep working on developing yourself. Use all you have now to do all you can now.


That’s it. Now, you know you shouldn’t fake success till you’ve got it. Instead, celebrate the success you have achieved so far. It’s inspiration for others.


So, over to you…

Have you ever been tempted to take it? Do you think it’s right to pretend to be who you’re not?


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Temitope Esther

About Temitope Esther

Temitope is hooked on helping people to live and work better. She does this through her writing, speaking and supporting businesses. She is probably doing something in this lane on Facebook as we speak. Connect with her there or on LinkedIn.


  1. Thanks for contributing to Miraculous Ladies, Temitope. It’s good to have you on board.

    Great article. You’ve just highlighted that it really isn’t worth faking it. And you also gave some interesting advice.

    Have a lovely weekend.

    June June


    • Thank you so much, June. It’s my great honour.
      Have a great weekend too.

      Temitope Temitope


      • You’re welcome, Temitope. 🙂

        June June


    • Thank you, Scintilla, for reading the article and for your comment.

      Temitope Temitope


  2. This article was nothing more than a huge success! You can convince a lot of woman around the world to live free and feel comfortable. Tx a lot!!!



    • Thank you so much for your comment, Kyli! I’m glad you found the article helpful. Sure, a lot of women and even men need to know that they don’t need to pretend to be something they are not before they can have an amazing life.

      Sharing the message with friends and loved ones will go a long way to reach the world, one person at a time. You’ll agree we can do that, right?

      Thank you, Kyli.

      Temitope Temitope


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