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Is Your Journey Through Life Rough or Smooth?

Is Your Journey Through Life Rough or Smooth?

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Imagine your journey through life, like going on a bus ride. You wait for the bus to take you to your destination. It finally comes along and you get on it.

The bus is empty. You have a choice of seats. You find a nice cosy spot by the window. You relax and enjoy the lovely view.

After a while all sorts of people gets on the bus. The bus is full of noise and the people are disturbing your peace.

It gets even worse.

A screaming child sits in the empty seat next to yours. Her loud screams gives you a headache. So, you move to another seat.

A smelly man gets on the bus. He chooses to sit next to you. You can’t stand the stench. You move again.

A large woman with a shopping trolley joins you. She takes up most of the room. The edge of her trolley pokes you in your knee. She doesn’t seem to care that you’re squashed and in pain. You’re uncomfortable. You move again.

In a last attempt to get some peace you move to the back of the bus. But a teenage boy decides to keep your company. He plays head-banging RAP music on his iPhone. You’re stuck! There’s nowhere else to move to. 

The journey that started off so peacefully turns into a loud, unpleasant and irritable, bus ride. But you can’t get off the bus. It’s taking you to your destination. Plus it’s the only bus going your way.

All of those people on the bus are your challenges. They’re like the problems you face as you journey through life. They happen to you. Not because you choose them. They’re part of the package life dishes out. 

How do you deal with those irritating people? In other words, how do you handle challenges in your life?

  •  Do you slap the screaming child or do you scream back at her?

If you slapped her or screamed back, she’ll probably scream even louder. You might even scare the child. The last thing she would expect is for an adult to scream at her. Or you’d probably get a slap from her mum.

What can you do apart from changing seats again?

Changing seats is an escape route. It doesn’t solve the problem. The child will carry on screaming whether you stay or go.

That screaming child is like a problem that’s giving you a headache. Maybe its debt, relationship, work, family, loneliness, or issues with your next door neighbour. What do you do to solve it instead of running away?

The solution: You have to deal with the root of the problem. Let’s focus on the debt issue. The first thing to do is admit you’re sinking in debt. Next, stop borrowing or spending what you haven’t got.

Contact a debt management company or go to your nearest Citizens Advice Bureau. They will set up a plan with your creditors so you can pay off your debts at an affordable rate. Finally, stick to your budget and live within it.

  • Do you tell the smelly man that he stinks and he should go take a bath?

Telling the man that he smells is rude. You’ll probably embarrass him. He may even want to start a fight with you.

But, you don’t know why he smells. Maybe it’s because of a health related issue. Or, he doesn’t have much money and can’t afford to take regular baths or wash his clothes.

Look at your life. What’s causing it to smell? Do you have a problem that won’t go away? A smelly problem is something that’s not being addressed. It’s been there a long time and it’s turned rotten.

The solution: Only you know the problem that’s been hanging around you for a long time. Face up to it. Deal with it. Don’t hide away from it. Because it won’t go away by itself.

I had a smelly problem for many years. It was an addiction to relationships. I couldn’t live without having a boyfriend. The thought of being alone petrified me. As soon as one relationship ended, I rushed head on into another one.

My problem was love. But it wasn’t love I was searching for. I didn’t love myself and thought I could find it by getting men to love me. It took years for me to figure out that I was doing the wrong thing. I dealt with the problem and moved on. I’m now a happy single woman.

  • Do you kick the selfish woman with the shopping trolley?

Kicking her will make things worse. That’s more like over reacting. Two selfish acts don’t solve a problem. It creates more problems and angry sparks will fly.

What kicking challenges are you facing in your life?

Is it a health problem? Are you the type of person that dislike going to the doctors? Ignoring a health problem can be fatal.

The solution: For this solution I’ll share a story. A friend of mine kept having her periods. It went on for months. Yet, she ignored it thinking it wasn’t anything serious. Then she started having bad stomach pains. The pains grew more and more intense. She had no choice but to go for a checkup.

The doctors referred her to the hospital. They sent her for a scan. The results showed that she had cancer of the ovaries. Sadly, she died a few months later.

I’m not trying to scare you. But if you have a health problem (no matter how small) get it checked out.

  • Do you snatch the teenager’s iPhone and chuck it through the bus window?

Snatching his iPhone is asking for trouble. He could get angry with you. Teenagers play loud music. It’s just what they do. They don’t see anything wrong with that.

Anyway some teenagers used to walk around with ghetto blasters back in the day (1989). That’s louder than an iPhone!

What loud problem is screaming at you? A loud problem is one that needs urgent attention. It could be a relationship issue. Maybe you’re in an abusive relationship  and you’re too scared to end it.

This is a sensitive subject. But, staying in that type of relationship is damaging. I’ve been there so I know.

The solution: You shouldn’t suffer any type of abuse for the sake of love. Love is not violent. If you’re being abused physically or verbally you must sort it out. If you find it hard to talk to your partner, see a professional.

I’m not qualified to give advice about the best way to solve this problem. It’s best to get in touch with The National Domestic Violence Helpline. They will recommend what you should do and support you.

In conclusion

You finally get off the bus and arrive at your destination.

But, have you really arrived?

Life is a journey and your destinations are temporary stops. You have to keep travelling until you get to the end of the road. What you do on your journey through life will decide if it’s rough or smooth.

What challenges have you faced through your journey in life? How did you deal with it? Please share with us by leaving a comment. I would appreciate you sharing this post with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Google+. Thanks! 🙂

June

About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney

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  1. Junie,

    Thanks for such an insightful post.
    Yes my Journey through life has been bumpy but I recently started a new one sort off because I decided to step down at the next stop and change buses all together. You see I was fortunate that there wasn’t only one going my way hahaha!
    I must admit that it is tough and the decisions and sacrifices are tougher, but we are and must remind ourselves always that we are toughest. Thank you once more and as I captioned in my most recent post in my blog, “Don’t Give Up…”
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    Marie Angele Abanga

    03/12/2013

    • Thanks for stopping by Marie. I like what you said about changing buses. That’s good! For some of us though, it’s not so easy to get off. So, we have to find ways to deal with the issues that’s keeping us on the bus.

      Your advice about being tough is great. And if we don’t give up, we’ll get to our desired destination in one piece, with more wisdom as well.

      Have a great day! 🙂

      junie junie

      03/12/2013

      • Junie,

        You are welcome and you are right that it ain’t always easy or even worth changing buses

        Hear the very me tell you how a few hours ago I regretted changing tables in my University. Well I came in and sat on a reading table with some noisy students and there was a midget or two in the air which I tried to scare off and ended up thinking I could as well move table

        Boom the one I foolishly moved to had two quiet students who were however eating wraps and drinking fanta and you can guess the midgets family tree…
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        Marie Angele

        03/12/2013

        • Marie, not sure who the midgets are! But do I know about noisey students? I’ve had to deal with a few of them during my teaching days.

          Do tell me some more about the midgets and their family tree… Hmmm!

          Thanks for your interesting comments. 🙂

          junie junie

          03/12/2013

        • Midgets are defined as sand flies but I know them as those little insect like stuffs which follow ‘stale like food or beer, wine etc’ unduly exposed and more etc

          So to crown my day, I just walked into a lecture and some students had been asked to volunteer and bring some wine and snacks for our group discussions (I wasn’t there last week due to other engagements so I didn’t know about that) and guess what, they brought much, opened one before the class actually began and somehow midgets came along so by now I know how to deal with this instead of getting worked up or changing tables hahaha!
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          Marie Angele

          03/12/2013

        • Hahaha! Dreaded midgets. Glad you managed to figure out how to deal with them Marie. Hope they didn’t ruin your group discussions. 🙂

          junie junie

          03/12/2013

  2. Hi June,

    I love this analogy and we definitely will never get anywhere in life if we ignore our problems and hope they’ll just go away. I’ve never understood the people who would prefer to just play it doesn’t exist.

    We definitely all have to take responsibility of our lives and make them to be the best they can. Face the problems and issues as they arise and seek help if we don’t have the answers.

    My bus ride so far has been really nice. I’m hoping it will stay that way.

    Thank you and enjoy your weekend.

    ~Adrienne
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    Adrienne

    07/12/2013

    • Hi Adrienne,

      Some people like to bury their head in the sand and hope that by ignoring their problems, they’ll go away. But as we all know, ignoring a problem only makes it worse.

      I like what you said about facing our issues and problems and getting help if necessary. I would also like to add that we should learn from our problems. It helps us avoid making them twice. At least, it’s supposed to.

      If there’s room on your nice bus ride, can I join you please? 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a great week.

      Jue

      junie junie

      08/12/2013

  3. Great article, June! I love the analogy! I get really frustrated when I run into problems. And, that usually makes things much worse.

    Each of your examples really hits home at not making emotional decisions,but really taking the time to think about the issue at hand and the best way to solve it.

    One thing I’ve definitely put off (as you mentioned) is going to the doctor. It’s been a while since I’ve got a check up, so I need to really get on top of that! Thanks for the reminder both about that and about the fact that we all are on a journey, and it’s about handling the rough situations.
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    Jennifer Kennedy

    08/12/2013

    • Thanks Jennifer! Problems can be a headache. But knowing how to deal with them calmly and rationally helps. A few years ago, I didn’t handle problems well. I used to get frustrated and stressed and that only made matters worse. But I’m now in a place where I can take deep breaths and assess the situation. Therefore, I can think more clearly and sort out my problems without raising my blood pressure.

      I’m glad that this article made you think about going to the doctors for a check up. That’s important!

      Yes, we’re all on a journey. We can’t get off because it’s called ‘life’ so we should try and make it as smooth as possible. Not letting people get to us is a good way of dealing with many issues. Because, people will always share our bus rides whether we like it or not.

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a fantastic week. 🙂

      junie junie

      08/12/2013

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