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How to be Happily Single

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Did you know that it’s possible to be happily single?

One day your ideal man could come into your life and you won’t be single any more. Guess what? You might wish you were single again.

Married couples envy single ladies and single ladies envy married couples. Enjoy where you are now. Who knows what tomorrow will bring?

“When I’m single, all I see are couples being happy. When I’m in a relationship, all I see are singles being happy.” ~ searchquotes.com

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“Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand.” – Anonymous

1.  Don’t worry – be happily single!

Do you think you can only find happiness from a man? I used to think like that. But I was wrong. Happiness comes from within. No man on earth can make you happy. They can make you feel good about yourself. But that’s only temporary. True happiness comes from loving and accepting yourself.

“If you aren’t happily single, then you won’t be happily taken. True happiness comes from within not from anyone else.” ~ Unknown

  • Embrace your single life, accept it and grow in the knowledge of who you are as a woman.
  • Use this time to discover your strengths, weaknesses and character. Develop the areas that needs to be perfected.
  • Spend time on yourself and with yourself. Learn to enjoy and appreciate your own company.
  • Discover your inner beauty and you’ll radiate happiness inside and out.

2.  Be satisfied with your singleness

Not every single girl is searching, some are actually single and satisfied.

The best part of being single and satisfied is not stressing about a man stressing you out!

When you’re satisfied with being single your life will take on a new meaning. You’ll wake up in the morning feeling great. And actually look forward to the day ahead. Feeling good on the inside will make you look good on the outside.

The world is full of new opportunities. Go forward and never look back.

  • Enrol on a part-time course. Learn something new, add to your creative skills and make new friends.
  • Pamper yourself. Get a pedicure or manicure. Go for a relaxing massage to melt away the cares of life.
  • Book yourself into a hotel for the weekend. If your budget doesn’t stretch that far, sit in Starbucks and enjoy a delicious cup of coffee or whatever drink you fancy.
  • Do something fun. Write a novel, learn to zumba, salsa, bungee jump or whatever. Let your hair down and enjoy yourself.
  • If the weather is nice sit in the park, read and book and listen to your favourite music.

3.  Be patient in your waiting

Don’t be quick to say yes to any man because your friends are in relationships. Sometimes a life of singleness can make you hungry for a man. But starve that craving. Don’t rush for pizza when the steak is cooking.

Good things come to those who wait. You are special and you deserve to have a special man in your life.

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I’ve been single for seven years and I am still waiting on God for my ideal partner. I’m in no rush. I used to jump from one dysfunctional relationship to another. And it cost me more than heartaches.

Being in a relationship with the wrong person is worse than living in hell. You’ll have no peace.

I discovered that loving myself was the key to loving someone else. Looking for love was not the answer.

I’ve achieved a lot of goals since I’ve been single.

  • Don’t let loneliness make you wake up next to a man the morning after full of regrets.
  • Don’t chase after a man for love. Let him find you when the time is right.
  • Desire to have the best. Develop the qualities of the man you want to meet. Then you’ll attract the right one for you.
  • Don’t compromise your self-worth for the sake of a relationship.

Being happily single isn’t hard. If you have the correct mindset and accept your singleness, you can do it. I am single and happy and you can be too. I was a woman who couldn’t breathe without a man. Now I can exhale on my own and have never felt more fulfilled and confident in my entire life. The secret? I learnt to love myself instead of searching for a man to love me.

 “You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose.” ~ Quotekiss.com

Are you happily single? If not, what’s making you feel sad in your single life? Please share in the comments box below.

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About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney

    18 Comments

  1. Hi June,

    Lovely post indeed 🙂

    I totally agree with you – you CAN be happy when single. I say this even though I am happily married because I’ve a few family and friends who are living a blissful life on their own after going through relationship problems in their lives too.

    I think what matters most is how you adapt and change yourself in such a way that it makes you feel happier and worthwhile. You don’t need a man, but this fact most married women might not realize because they have a man to take care of them, in most of the cases. Whereas when the man is absent, the woman does take over in more ways than one – she is fully in charge of her life and does a pretty good job of it.

    I think your happiness is not dependant on any man, it lies within you, so look for it and make your life a happy one.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂

    Harleena

    16/08/2013

    • Hi Harleena,

      Thank you.

      If anyone had told me a few years ago that I could be a happy single woman, I wouldn’t have believed them. But I can honestly say happiness and singleness are great together. In the beginning it was hard. That’s because I was used to being in relationships, even though most of the times I wasn’t happy. But I put up with it just to have someone I could lean on. Believe me, I did a lot of leaning! Anyway thank God I found out that I could live by myself and depend on myself.

      Happiness does not come from being in relationships or from men. It comes from within, like I said in my post. 🙂

      Have a fantastic weekend. 🙂

      junie junie

      16/08/2013

  2. I can definitely relate to this post June. I’ve been happily single for almost 25 years.

    If you can’t be happy with yourself then how can you ever be happy with someone? That’s always been the question I have for people. You definitely can’t make anyone else happy if you’re not happy with yourself and that even means being okay with being alone.

    I do honestly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. If we have the right attitude and thoughts about it then they will come into our life. If we don’t then we may never meet them.

    So be happy with yourself and if you want someone just know that God will bring them to you when he knows your ready. Until then just enjoy yourself because trust me, it’s fabulous.

    ~Adrienne
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    Adrienne

    16/08/2013

    • Wow Adrienne! 25 years is a long time. You’ve inspired me because I know it’s possible to he happily single for as long as you’re single. You are so right by saying if you’re not happy with yourself then how can you make someone else happy.

      Having the right mindset and attitude is key to attracting the right person. But you have to be ready otherwise you’ll probably end up single again.That’s why it’s good to use the time when you’re single to prepare yourself by healing from past hurts and getting rid of some unnecessary baggage. Carrying old baggage will slow you down and wear you out!

      Adrienne I am happy being single and I know that God will bring the right one to me at the right time! Yes, it’s fabulous being single. I love it! 🙂

      junie junie

      18/08/2013

  3. Your post is spot on! It’s all about creating happiness for ourselves. I’m in a relationship, but as said above, I look around at all the single ladies and oftentimes envy the freedom.

    But, you’re right. It’s about being happy in the moment and realizing that your thoughts and actions make that happen.

    We like to wish & hope for a different lifestyle than the one we have. I do that as I’m trying to build an online business. But, it’s about enjoying and being happy with what we have.

    Thanks, June!
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    Jennifer Kennedy

    18/08/2013

    • Jennifer life is strange like that. We always think the grass is greener on the other side in the sense that we envy what others have. But the key is being happy in whatever situation we’re in. That’s when we’ll truly be content.

      I know that you’ll build a great online business because you’re passionate about it. Be happy as you do that as well!

      Thanks for stopping by.

      Have a fantastic week. 🙂

      junie junie

      18/08/2013

  4. Good article. It’s true the grass always appears greener and their are pros and cons for being single or in a relationship. I’ve been single for a while and am (im)patiently waiting for the good Lord to send someone my way! lol
    However in the meantime, I enjoy lazy Saturday afternoons where I don’t have to entertain anyone or cook and being able to go out with friends at short notice without checking in with a partner!lol

    Natasha

    20/08/2013

    • Yes there are pros and cons on both sides. I’m sure the good Lord will pave the way for you to meet your ideal man when He knows you’re ready. Sometimes we go into a relationship for the sake of it and we’re not ready.

      I’ve been enjoying my single life and loving it. I’ve grown so much as a person, it’s unbelievable. When I was in relationships I lost my identity. I was busy being what my partners wanted me to be that I forgot who I was. Being single has given me the time to discover June and my confidence has grown. I don’t have to depend on a man to make me feel good about myself, I can do that all by myself.

      I guess I’m just used to being by myself. I can do what I want when I want. I’m totally happy, fulfilled and best of all I’ve got God. What more can a woman want? So, I will wait until He makes my path cross with the man of my dreams. 🙂

      junie junie

      20/08/2013

    • Forgot to add, I enjoy lazy Saturday afternoons too! It’s great being able to walk around the house not worrying about how I look. I can wear my pyjamas all day if I want… 🙂

      junie junie

      20/08/2013

  5. Hi June,

    I’m glad I finally made it here.

    You bet. I am now single and love it and even though I used to be sick to see loving couples few years ago, it so went away. I don’t feel that at all anymore.

    To give you a little bit of my history here. I was married twice, very bad marriages. After my second divorce in 2002 I was feeling lonely again and was desperate for companionship. I was miserable for a good decade between both my marriages and another couple of years after my second marriage.

    However, something happened to me when I started getting involved with personal development. It really changed my life, and I stopped being needy for a relationship ever since.

    You’re right we need to be happy were we are single as well as married. I think it’s even easier single.

    Thank you for this great post for us ladies 🙂
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    Sylviane Nuccio

    27/08/2013

    • Hi Sylviane,

      Thanks for stopping by. It’s great to hear from you.

      It seems we’ve got a lot in common. I’ve been married twice as well. And yes they were bad marriages too. I also went through the miserable, lonely periods wishing I could find a good man to settle down with again. I did meet someone a few years after my second marriage ended. But that didn’t work out either.

      Although it was heartbreaking, I got over it. Now I’m extremely happy and loving it.

      Good for you that you decided to get involved with personal development. I’m glad that helped you to come to terms with your singleness. 🙂

      Have a great week. 🙂

      junie junie

      27/08/2013

  6. I have recently broke up with my fiance,who abused me for a very long time,I was afraid of leaving him thinking that my daughter will have no one to call daddy.I realised that my baby will rather have no father than to have an abusive and violent one.Its been 2 months now and im really inspired with your post and comments from readers,I feel free and enjoy my own company.

    Thank you

    Khomotso

    07/11/2013

    • Can I share something with you? I was married to an abusive man. He used to hit me in front of our baby and my daughter (she wasn’t his child) often. One day he went mad and nearly killed me. I made a decision to leave him because my daughter’s lives were at risk. It was the best decision.

      You need to do what’s best for you and your daughter. Being single isn’t always easy but it makes you a stronger person. And yes’ it’s great to feel free, in control and it gives you a chance to get to know you and understand yourself better.

      If you ever need any encouragement please feel free to email me. My email address is on the contact us page. 🙂

      junie junie

      07/11/2013

  7. Hi June

    I love this post June, as I can identify with so much of it! Just like Sylviane, I finally made the commitment to work on my personal development, and what a transformation to the way I thought and felt! As you rightfully say, happiness comes from within, yet so few people realise this, which I can attest to, because I was one of those people. I’ve now learned how to create my own happiness, by filling my life with more of the things I enjoyed. and that make me and other people happy. I also learned to practice gratitude, which changed my whole outlook, and made me appreciate and love myself and my life as it was.

    When I stopped letting it bother me when people would ask me if I was in a relationship and I had to say no, it felt like a cloud had been lifted. I learned to be happy to say ‘I’m single’, and live with the fact that one day I would find someone I was happily compatible with.

    I am happily in a relationship now, and the lessons I learned have contributed to me being happy in that relationship, which I’m convinced makes it much more fulfilling.

    Thank you 🙂
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    Marcia

    19/09/2014

    • Hi Marcia,

      Thank you. For most of my adult life I depended on men to make me happy. I didn’t know any better. I was scared of being alone and thought having relationships would give me the fulfillment I was looking for. I later realised (after I became single) that I was the problem. I didn’t love myself, that’s why I wasn’t happy. As soon as I started focusing on me instead of men, my life changed. I became a happy woman who didn’t mind being single. In fact, it’s the most content I’ve ever been. 🙂

      I’m glad to hear how your life changed after you embraced being single. It definitely paid off for you. And I pray that your relationship grows from strength to strength.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Have a good weekend Marcia. 🙂

      June June

      19/09/2014

  8. Hi June,
    Well I read your post and I wanted to comment on it. I have been single for over a year now and I am 29 years old, will be 30 in April 2015. And I guess that me seeing how many guys are out here either cheating on there girlfriends or abusing them. It is kind of hard to not think that there are no good guys out there anymore. I would like to get married and have a family one day, but sometime I think that there is no one out there for me. I put God first, but its like what if its his will that I do not get a boyfriend or have a family or get married. Will I ever find a descent man to be with? However, I am focused on getting another job, saving money to pay overdue bills, get me a vehicle, update my wardrobe,, the list goes on and on. I love being single, but there are times where I want to cuddle, kiss, or get hugged. I just need to stay focused.

    Shaun

    14/01/2015

    • Hi Shaun,

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. There are lots of good guys out there, but it’s knowing where to find them. It’s distressing to hear about so many guys who cheat or abuse their girlfriends.

      If you keep putting God first, He will come through for you. Everything happens at the right time. If you’re a Christian, exercise your faith. Read Hebrews 11 and meditate on those words. Believe that God will answer your prayer for a life partner and stop doubting.

      You’re doing the right thing at the moment by working and sorting out yourself. I know what you mean about wanting a cuddle sometimes. If you’ve got family or friends, hug them. There’s nothing wrong with that. You might have to save the kiss for when you meet your man though. Keep hopeful. 🙂

      June June

      16/01/2015

  9. And you know what really sucks more than ever for many of us? Well it certainly sucks being all Alone for the Holidays too.

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