Happy Being a Single Woman and Loving it
Being a single woman is not a tragedy. I am a single woman and proud to be so. I know that some women don’t like being single and will do anything to be with a man. I used to be one of those women. I had to be in a relationship, whether the man was good for me or not. As long as I wasn’t single I was happy, or so I thought!
Whatever situation you find yourself in as you go through life; you have to deal with it. I didn’t choose to be a single woman. Circumstances made it that way. I can allow circumstances to dictate to me or I can choose to control those circumstances. I choose the latter.
No One to Play With
With everything, there is a positive and negative side. It can be lonely being single. Walking into an empty house after a long, stressful day at work with no one to share your feelings with, can be disheartening. When you attend social events and everyone around is all loved up, it’s not nice being the odd one out.
Loneliness can hit you when you’re distressed and don’t have a man to pamper you and reassure you that everything will be OK. It’s no fun going to alone night after night. On those cold winters’ night, I would love to have someone to cuddle up next to.
Despite all of those things, I’ve come to the conclusion that you can be happy being single. Life is what you make it. I will be the best whether I’m a single woman or not.
Happy by Myself
I’m happy being a single woman. I do enjoy my company. I’m free to do what I want when I want. I’ve got a few true friends who add excitement to my life. They love me for who I am.
I can honestly say that the biggest problem in my life now is not having enough money. If I was a gold digger, I would go and find me a sugar daddy. Then again, I would only be using that man to get what I want. But I’m not a user.
Advantages of Being Single
Looking back over the years has made me realise that life as a single woman does have advantages.
I’ve accomplished more in my life as a single woman than when I was married. I should pat myself on the back for some of the goals I set and have achieved:
- I raised my three daughters mostly by myself.
- Passed my driving test.
- Moved houses twice.
- Decorated my houses.
- Connected with the local MP through voluntary work.
- Completed a few training courses.
- Went to university and graduated as a teacher.
- Started this blog
Those are just some of my accomplishments.
I am complete and whole. When I meet my other half, I will compliment him instead of feed off his emotions. I value myself and know my self-worth. So, I don’t need a man to fill any voids in my life.
I Love Me and the Single Life
I was a very needy teenager. Whenever I wasn’t in a relationship, I felt that my life was incomplete. In the process I lost my identity. I was always somebody’s girlfriend, fiancé or wife. I forgot who I was as a person. I was too busy trying to conform to who my man at that time wanted me to be. It turned me into a sad, lost, confused woman.
I thought that I needed the love of a man to function properly. But that was because I didn’t love myself. I was insecure. I believed their love was all I needed to turn me into the woman I should be.
Being single has given me the opportunity to truly love myself. In the process I also found myself. I know who I am and what I want from life. I am now a strong woman with values and high self-esteem.
That lost little girl has grown into an assertive, emotionally strong, mature woman. I know my strengths and weaknesses. And I’ve used them to get me to the level I’m at in my life. No man helped me get here. I did it all by myself.
Being single has been a blessing to me. It’s been interesting and exciting.
The single journey has taken me through many rugged roads, up some mountains, down some valleys and back to a river of self-discovery. I’ll sit by the calm waters and wait until the time is right for me to swim to meet my other half.
If you’re on that single journey, what’s your experiences? What have you learnt from it? How do you cope with loneliness? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Photo: June Whittle