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Christmas and the Single Woman – Tips on How to Enjoy it

Christmas and the Single Woman – Tips on How to Enjoy it

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Christmas and the single woman isn’t always a good mix. For some it’s a lonely depressing time. Although, for others it’s exciting and enjoyable.

I’m a single woman and a single mother. I’ve got family and friends. But, I could easily decide to shut out the world and sit at home by myself. There’s something about the Christmas atmosphere that makes me remember past relationships.

I think about the good times we shared. Going Christmas shopping together, opening presents, drinking Baileys Irish Cream, cooking Christmas dinner and just having fun.

Now I’m a single woman. When I look outside, it’s cold and grey. Sometimes I wish I had someone to share the festive season with. But, the bottom line is I don’t. I’m not going to beat myself up over it. I’d rather be positive and look forward instead of looking backwards.

Can I be honest with you? I’ve had a crappy year. It’s been hard financially. Plus, I’ve had some challenges with my teenage daughter. I’ve felt really lonely at times. However, I’m not going to wear a pessimist hat and let the circumstances of life spoil my Christmas.

I’ll be going to my eldest daughter’s house for Christmas dinner. Then to my sister’s for dinner on Boxing Day. I’m also planning to make the popular Jamaican Christmas drink for the first time in my life. Fingers crossed. And eat a slice or two of the delicious Christmas fruit cake at my sister’s house. I’m really looking forward to it.

The best thing is, I don’t have to do any cooking!

There’s one thing I don’t like about Christmas. Everything shuts down. It feels and looks like a ghost town. There’s hardly anyone on the streets. Even the roads that are usually busy with cars are dead quiet. It looks and feels like being in a ghost town. 

As a single woman on your own, you probably feel isolated as well. So, make a choice. Choose to spend Christmas with friends or family.

Have a carefree attitude. Don’t let singleness or loneliness get the better of you this Christmas. Use the holiday period to have fun, improve the quality of your life and set positive goals for 2012.

“Aim for the stars and maybe you’ll reach the sky.” ~ John Lubbock

  • Visit family or a close friend for Christmas dinner. Or cook a lovely meal and invite them to eat with you. Spend quality time with people you care about.
  • Catch up with friends that you didn’t see much of in the year because of work or other commitments. Go through your telephone book. Call people you haven’t spoken to for a while. Send E-cards or emails to get back in touch with old friends or distant family members.
  • Treat yourself to a new haircut, manicure or pedicure. Dress up for yourself on Christmas day and look your best. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t got a man to compliment you. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you look beautiful. Congratulate yourself for the hard work you did during the year. You deserve it!
  • Invite friends, work colleagues and family over. Have a candle lit dinner party for Christmas or Boxing Day. Dress your dining table, cook a lovely Christmas meal. Enjoy it with a bottle of good wine. Listen to your favourite CDs in the background. After dinner, dance, laugh, play games and have fun with your friends and family.
  • Use the time off work as an opportunity to de-clutter or spring clean your home. Get rid of all old, unwanted stuff that’s taking up space. Donate them to charity. If you’re short cash, sell them on Ebay or have a car boot sale. Start the New Year with less clutter. An uncluttered home stimulates clarity and focus.
  • Book a holiday. Go somewhere nice and hot. If you can afford it enjoy an exotic Christmas abroad.
  • Take time to be thankful for all you’ve achieved in 2011. When you give thanks, it makes you appreciate what you’ve got.
  • Prepare yourself for meeting your new man in the New Year. Love and appreciate yourself for who you are. If you love yourself, it’s easier for someone else to love you. Be the woman whom your ideal man is looking for. Let your best qualities shine through. You’re more likely to attract the right type of man then.
  • Use this Christmas period as a time to reflect.  Evaluate your life. Look at what you’ve achieved over the year. Set new goals for 2012. Invest in yourself. Think about developing new skills for the future. You may have to go back to college or take a short course to meet those goals. Self-development is one step towards fulfilling your dreams and creating your ideal future.

There’s lots to do this Christmas, even if you’re a single woman. You don’t have to sit at home alone, feeling lonely and depressed. You can have a fantastic Christmas like anyone else. Happy Christmas!

What do you do to enjoy yourself as a single woman over Christmas? Do you dread the festive season or do you look forward to it?

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June

About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney

    10 Comments

  1. I love your list! These are some great suggestions, especially the taking a vacation with your time off. haha I will be visiting plenty of family. I’m sorry things have been a little rough for you, but maybe the holidays will make it seem all better.

    and you’re so right about everything being a ghost town on Christmas! Isn’t it an awful feeling? My best friend is Jewish, and she always say her Christmas is spent at the movies and eating Chinese food. haha
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    LMF

    16/12/2011

    • Thanks for your support. I do appreciate it. You’ve got the right idea about spending time with family, because it’s a lovely time to catch up.

      I’ve started setting goals for 2012 and I know it’s going to be a good year. I’ve learnt a lot from some of the events that happened to me this year. It’s made me stronger and more determined to succeed.

      Your Chinese friend could be a good example for some of the single women out there. By the way, did you try making the sorrel punch?

      junie junie

      16/12/2011

      • My friend and I made a modified version of what we had on hand. It was yummy, but something tells me it wasn’t as good at it should be. I’ll be trying to this again ASAP and this time we’ll make sure that we have all the ingredients. 🙂
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        LMF

        20/12/2011

        • It’s a pity that I can’t sample it. Never mind! I’m sure if you use all of the ingredients, it will taste good. Don’t get carried away with the white rum though. 🙂

          junie junie

          20/12/2011

  2. Although I am married, my husband is overseas and I feel a little single! I spend lots of time with family and I am able to spend more time writing and reading, two things I love to do. I am also using this time to undergo a career change. Your list is great and I am going to share it with a dear loved family member. I have to say that family and friends are extremely important and have made this an easy and enjoyable time for me. I have also been doing Zumba 2 on the Nintendo Wii with my mom and nieces and looking forward to toning up in the upcoming New Year!
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    FayeFinest

    18/12/2011

    • Thanks for your comments. Christmas is one of the best times to catch up with family and friends because most people will have time off work. I see that you’re using the time to invest in yourself, and that’s fantastic. We do have choices, and we can either choose to wallow in self-pity or have a positive outlook.

      Thanks for sharing this article with your family member. I appreciate you doing that. I hope it will benefit them in some way. Good luck with your Zumba work-out. That’s something I will take up in the New Year. It’s meant to be great for toning up. Let me know how you get on 🙂
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      junie junie

      18/12/2011

  3. thank’s for this blog.

    zegarki Tissot

    21/12/2011

    • You’re welcome. Thank you.

      junie junie

      03/01/2012

  4. I think that these tip is good for the coming Christmas. I will be able to bookmark it in order to have a great holiday. Good thing you have shared it.
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    TracyAnn0312

    12/11/2012

    • Thanks TracyAnn. It’s a pleasure to share tips that can be of some benefit to others. 🙂

      junie junie

      12/11/2012

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