Christmas and the Single Woman – Tips on How to Enjoy it
Christmas and the single woman isn’t always a good mix. For some it’s a lonely depressing time. Although, for others it’s exciting and enjoyable.
I’m a woman and a single mother. I’ve got family and friends. But, I could easily decide to shut out the world and sit at home by myself. There’s something about the Christmas atmosphere that makes me remember past relationships.
I think about the good times we shared. Going Christmas shopping together, opening presents, drinking Baileys Irish Cream, cooking Christmas dinner and just having fun.
Now I’m a single woman. When I look outside, it’s cold and grey. Sometimes I wish I had someone to share the festive season with. But, the bottom line is I don’t. I’m not going to beat myself up over it. I’d rather be positive and look forward instead of looking backwards.
Can I be honest with you? I’ve had a crappy year. It’s been hard financially. Plus, I’ve had some challenges with my teenage daughter. I’ve felt really lonely at times. However, I’m not going to wear a pessimist hat and let the circumstances of life spoil my Christmas.
I’ll be going to my eldest daughter’s house for Christmas dinner. Then to my sister’s for dinner on Boxing Day. I’m also planning to make the popular for the first time in my life. Fingers crossed. And eat a slice or two of the delicious Christmas fruit cake at my sister’s house. I’m really looking forward to it.
The best thing is, I don’t have to do any cooking!
There’s one thing I don’t like about Christmas. Everything shuts down. It feels and looks like a ghost town. There’s hardly anyone on the streets. Even the roads that are usually busy with cars are dead quiet. It looks and feels like being in a ghost town.
As a single woman on your own, you probably feel isolated as well. So, make a choice. Choose to spend Christmas with friends or family.
Have a carefree attitude. Don’t let singleness or loneliness get the better of you this Christmas. Use the holiday period to have fun, improve the quality of your life and set positive goals for 2012.
“Aim for the stars and maybe you’ll reach the sky.” ~ John Lubbock
- Visit family or a close friend for Christmas dinner. Or cook a lovely meal and invite them to eat with you. Spend quality time with people you care about.
- Catch up with friends that you didn’t see much of in the year because of work or other commitments. Go through your telephone book. Call people you haven’t spoken to for a while. Send E-cards or emails to get back in touch with old friends or distant family members.
- Treat yourself to a new haircut, manicure or pedicure. Dress up for yourself on Christmas day and look your best. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t got a man to compliment you. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you look beautiful. Congratulate yourself for the hard work you did during the year. You deserve it!
- Invite friends, work colleagues and family over. Have a candle lit dinner party for Christmas or Boxing Day. Dress your dining table, cook a lovely Christmas meal. Enjoy it with a bottle of good wine. Listen to your favourite CDs in the background. After dinner, dance, laugh, play games and have fun with your friends and family.
- Use the time off work as an opportunity to de-clutter or spring clean your home. Get rid of all old, unwanted stuff that’s taking up space. Donate them to charity. If you’re short cash, sell them on Ebay or have a car boot sale. Start the New Year with less clutter. An uncluttered home stimulates clarity and focus.
- Book a holiday. Go somewhere nice and hot. If you can afford it enjoy an exotic Christmas abroad.
- Take time to be thankful for all you’ve achieved in 2011. When you give thanks, it makes you appreciate what you’ve got.
- Prepare yourself for meeting your new man in the New Year. Love and appreciate yourself for who you are. If you love yourself, it’s easier for someone else to love you. Be the woman whom your ideal man is looking for. Let your best qualities shine through. You’re more likely to attract the right type of man then.
- Use this Christmas period as a time to reflect. Evaluate your life. Look at what you’ve achieved over the year. Set new goals for 2012. Invest in yourself. Think about developing new skills for the future. You may have to go back to college or take a short course to meet those goals. Self-development is one step towards fulfilling your dreams and creating your ideal future.
There’s lots to do this Christmas, even if you’re a single woman. You don’t have to sit at home alone, feeling lonely and depressed. You can have a fantastic Christmas like anyone else. Happy Christmas!
What do you do to enjoy yourself as a single woman over Christmas? Do you dread the festive season or do you look forward to it?
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