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What Blogging Taught me (It’s Not What You think)

What Blogging Taught me (It’s Not What You think)

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Blogging taught me that I’ve been kind of selfish.

But, I didn’t do it deliberately.

When I discovered blogs, I was like a child with a juicy lollipop. I sucked it till most of the juice was gone. And shared the left-overs with you.


When I started blogging I was blinded by ignorance

My vision was to inspire, educate, motivate and entertain you. But I didn’t write with only you in mind.

I wrote about topics I was interested in. I quickly rustled up posts on whatever I thought you would like to read.

  • It wasn’t about giving YOU what you wanted.

  • It wasn’t about adding value to your life.
  • It wasn’t about addressing issues you struggle with.
  • It wasn’t about asking how I could help you.
  • It wasn’t about sharing valuable information with you.


Because I thought all I had to do was write about stuff. Anything. Then, dish it up to you.  

The first post I wrote was, ‘Is it Freaky to be a Virgin? 

I was super excited. Proud of myself for writing it.

I asked my sister to read it and give me some feedback.

“Who are you writing for?” She asked.

“What do you mean, who am I writing for? I’m writing it to put on my blog. I think it’s a great topic. Is the article OK or not?” I was inpatient for an answer. Itching to hit the publish button.

She told me the post was interesting.

That’s all I wanted to hear. With a big grin, I published it.


That was the first of many more blog posts I wrote to please anyone.

The new blogging fever hooked me. I wanted to wow the world with my words. 

I started to eat, sleep and breathe blogging. That’s when I discovered (it took a long time to sink in) I was doing it all wrong. I had the right motives. But went about it the wrong way.  

Blogging isn’t about pumping out post after post to satisfy my writing appetite.

  • It’s about forming a valuable relationship with you.
  • It’s about focusing on you.
  • It’s about helping you meet your goals.
  • It’s about interacting with you.
  • It’s about sharing crucial knowledge with you.

That’s why I have to tell you…


I woke up with you on my mind this morning

In fact, I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately.

I know I’ve ignored you. I haven’t been updating my blog often. And I feel awful.

I’ll stop rambling and get to the point.

I created Miraculous Ladies to help you. I wanted to make a positive difference to your life.

But, I haven’t been giving you what you want. 

Imagine cooking a juicy steak for a vegetarian. They wouldn’t eat it. Would they? You’d be wasting your time.

But guess what?


I’m highly passionate about helping you

But I can’t do that unless I know what you want. I’m dog-tired from writing blog posts I think you want to read. It’s not getting you or me anywhere.

This blog has come to a screeching halt. I want to move forward. But I can’t.

If I do, I’ll carry on blogging selfishly.

A few months ago I told you that Miraculous Ladies was changing direction. But I didn’t ask for your opinion. I presumed that if I wrote about women entrepreneurs, you’d be satisfied.

I was guessing. Again. And that’s not good enough. How can we develop a relationship if I’m the only one making the decisions?


Do me a favour please? Tell me how I can help you. What do you want from me?

I want to write useful content. Just for you. I don’t want to waste your time and mine writing posts that’s of no value to you.


Can you spare a few minutes to answer three quick questions for me?

It won’t take long. I promise.

The survey is inserted below:


Create your free online surveys with SurveyMonkey , the world’s leading questionnaire tool.

I appreciate your feedback. I’ll use your response to shape the future of Miraculous Ladies.

No more selfish blogging. It’s all about you now and what you want. Let’s work together to make your life sensational.

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About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney


  1. Wow, June, I started my blogging life with sound advice from you and now you ask me to say something?

    Now, I couldn’t find the three quick questions you mentioned but I dare make random remarks in addition to what we discussed when I visited you.

    a) Appraise the visits you have had on various posts so far, the comments, likes or even frequent scrolls;

    b) Put yourself in a reader’s shoes and be objective = close your eyes and change your name for that excercise;

    c) Be Passionate about the choice you ultimately make, meaning it’s not only about us – but it’s also about you. If you don’t like what you think we appreciate, you may not not write it passionately and we will leave to return no more or sparingly :).

    Now let me read that first post of yours, hmm what a post it was:)
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    • Hi Marie,

      Sorry you couldn’t find the questions. They’re in a survey in the post. But never mind, you already gave me some brilliant advice last Sunday. I’m going to take on board all you said.

      I appreciate your support. And you’re right by saying I should write about the things I’m passionate about. But I should also consider what you need. I certainly don’t want to lose you. Nor do I want you to to return sparingly. 🙂

      I’m glad you enjoyed reading my first post.

      Thanks for stopping by Marie. I hope you have a fantastic weekend. 🙂

      June Whittle June Whittle


  2. Hey June,

    We’ve all been there, me included. I mean I started blogging about what I was learning because it was how to get my blog attention, traffic and all that good stuff. That started attracting more people who wanted to learn the same things and it’s been going pretty strong ever since.

    I think it’s great that you’ve included a survey to ask us what we’d like to read. I filled it out so I hope that will help.

    I know that there is so much information out there now really about all the same things but when we hear it from your own point of view and experience then that makes it more real ya know. Like people wondering how you did something and by you sharing your experience helps others realize they can do that too.

    I’m excited for you and can’t wait to hear your results and see where you’ll be headed. I wish you the very best of luck young lady and you’ll do great.

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    • Hi Adrienne,

      Although I started blogging clueless, I know enough now to use it to help others. That’s why I did the survey, because I need to take the focus off me. I appreciate you filling it out. That’s really useful. I’ve got an idea now of where this blog will be headed. And the response from the survey will help me write relevant content.

      You’re right about incorporating my experiences and points of view. There’s nothing better than real life experiences. That’s one of the most effective ways of inspiring others.

      I’ll blog about the results this week. And thanks for your support Adrienne. I really appreciate it. 🙂

      Enjoy your week.

      June Whittle June Whittle


  3. Hi June,

    Ah…you are surely not the only one to feel this way dear friend 🙂

    I think when most of us started blogging, we had no idea about what direction we had to take our blogs to, and what to really write about. I also used to write about topics that inspired me or those that I liked to write about.

    However, when off and one I wrote about what people were wanting to read and started getting a good response, I changed myself. I started writing FOR people, what they liked, what they came looking at my blog for, what might help them – it was all for people, and there’s been no looking back. However, those topics are hand picked and the ones that I also enjoy writing about, so it’s a perfect blend of both I would say.

    When people like what they read, and they can learn something from your posts, or find something to take back home, they will always return for more. That’s just how it’s been over at my blog. I did fill up the survey and hope it helps you decide further.

    Thanks for sharing. Happy weekend as well 🙂
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    • Hi Harleena,

      It’s a relief to know I’m not the only one who started blogging by writing to please myself. 🙂

      It’s time (well past it’s date) I started helping and giving value to my readers. They deserve it. When I decided to write about entrepreneurship, I realised that I was being selfish. I didn’t ask anyone what they wanted me to write about. I presumed! But, I’ve had enough of presuming. That’s why I did the survey. And thanks for completing it. It’s given me a clearer picture of where this blog is going.

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a great week. 🙂

      June Whittle June Whittle



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