How to Adore The Fact That You’re an Amazing Woman
You’re an amazing woman. Do you know why? It’s simply because you are a woman. You juggle lots of difficult tasks and wear dozens of different hats.
Maybe you’re a single mother, single woman, wife, sister, auntie, friend, boss, employee or whatever. If you were to video yourself for a week, you’ll see how much multi-tasking, problem solving, advice giving, and so on that you do. And you still manage to look gorgeous.
You’re an amazing woman because…
You’re A single mother: This is one of the toughest jobs a woman has to deal with. For a start, you’re a mum and dad rolled into one package. Do you ever feel like a walking zombie because of lack of sleep? Or have days when you feel like running away because of the pressures of motherhood?
You’re tired. But you have to deal with your child’s non-stop tantrums, bad attitude or rebellion and more, in one day.
What about when you’re in the supermarket doing the grocery shopping, and have to control a screaming toddler? They demand a large chocolate bar. You say no. But somehow you end up having a tug of war, trying to take the chocolate out of their hands. Then all eyes are on you, like you’re the wicked witch from London.
If you’re fortunate enough to have a darling teenage daughter, that is another story. Her hormones are flying all over the place. If you dare tell her to wash up or tidy her room, you’ll probably get a mouthful of verbal diarrhea. You also have to deal with her boyfriend or girlfriend issues. There’s also the days when she hates the sight of you, because she’s having a bad day. But, you’re not allowed to have a bad day.
Because you’re an amazing single mother you…
- Breathe slowly. Count to 10. Exercise patience. And smile often.
- Calmly explain to your naughty toddler that if they behave nicely, they’ll get a treat at home.
- Spend quality time with your teenage daughter. Talk to her like a friend and show her how much you love her. I wrote a post about a nightmare day I had with my teenage daughter. You can read it here: Teenage Daughters are From Saturn and Mothers From Jupiter.
You’re a single woman: I applaud you. I’m single, happy and content. Although, some family members and friends think I would be happier in a relationship. I’m not saying being single doesn’t come with challenges. You have to deal with loneliness; lack of hugs; no one to snuggle up next to on those cold winter nights; no one to share your frustrations with after a hard day at work; or look after you when you’re ill and you have to do things solo, etc.
Because you’re an amazing single woman you…
- Use this opportunity to learn new skills, set realistic goals, start a new business or get a better job.
- Spend time getting to know yourself better and love who you are.
- Enjoy having the bed all to yourself. You can toss and turn as much as you like. And, the duvet is all yours. Read about my single life here: Happy Being a Single Woman and Loving it.
- Don’t to cook if you don’t feel like it. Instead, buy a take away without feeling guilty.
- Wear makeup, get your hair done often, have regular manicure, dress nicely and look beautiful.
- Enjoy your single life, and have lots of girly get-together.
You’re a daughter: Sometimes it’s tough being a daughter. Especially if you don’t get on with your mum. Or if like me, you didn’t grow up with her. I spent most of my life in a different country to my mum. She left me in Jamaica when I was 4, we were reunited when I was 13, and she went away again when I was 19. She was absent when I was going through hell with my first boyfriend. Also, she wasn’t around when I needed guidance as a new mother. And the list goes on. If you want to find out more, read this post: Mothers and Daughters: 9 Important Issues Mum Didn’t Tell me About Life.
Maybe you’ve had your mother all your life. But you don’t get on. It could be that she interferes with your life, tries to control you, hates your friends, treats you like a five year-old and can’t accept the fact that you’re a grown woman. Or maybe she doesn’t respect you, and expect you to apologise when she’s in the wrong.
Because you’re an amazing daughter you…
- Try to figure out why your mum has issues with you.
- Look at her life and find out how her parents treated her. You might discover the answers to why she behaves a certain way.
- Forgive her often and don’t hold grudges against her.
- Tell her you love her, even if she doesn’t say it to you.
- Cherish her because she is your mother. If it wasn’t for her you wouldn’t exist. Read this post and you’ll appreciate her more: Who is a Mother?
It doesn’t matter what type of rocks life throws at you. When they fly towards you, some will hit hard. And they will hurt. But, bruises eventually heal. What I’m trying to say is, problems will come your way. They’re part of life. But you can learn from them. Every time something nasty bashes you, use it as a lesson, instead of letting it knock you to the ground. However, if you do fall, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. Next time you’ll be wiser.
Gain inner strength from challenges and trials. Because trials make you strong. And a strong woman is a powerful and amazing woman.
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What can you share about your amazing self? How many rocks have you been hit with and how did you heal from the bruises? Please share your thoughts in the comments box below.