A Strong Woman Bounces Back After Defeat
Would you call yourself a strong woman? And can you relate to this mother’s story? Read on and think about it…
Many years ago in deep winter, a single mother, cold, hungry, sad and tired, sat gloomily in her dark bedroom. She left her husband because of a toxic marriage. Her baby and young daughter hadn’t eaten a decent meal in weeks. She didn’t have a job. Her bank account was in the red. The cupboards were empty. Bills poured through the letterbox daily. Debts mounted up. Full of despair, she didn’t know where to turn.
However, one day after a lot of thinking she decided, enough of the pity party. The next morning, she bought a copy of the local newspaper and searched through the job ads. That day, she applied for an early morning cleaning and a hotel room assistant job. She was successful and started working the following week.
Working between the two jobs she paid her bills and fed her family.
That woman was me.
A few years later, after those two jobs, I worked as a credit controller; an attendance officer; graduated from university; taught at a further education college; became a freelance copywriter, blogger, and ghostwriter. In addition, I recently self-published my first book, Deep Within my Soul.
Do you know what happened to the woman in the dark bedroom? I made a choice. I could have stayed living in doom and gloom feeling sorry for myself. Or take action. I took action.
What action do you need to take to bounce back from defeat?
A strong woman takes action
Endurance is a powerful word. It means strength and staying power. When the challenges of life get tough, bounce into survival mode.
Do whatever is necessary to move out of your stagnant situation.
First, change your mindset from one of self-pity to one of I will get out of this (whatever you’re going through). The minute you decide to take action is when you start the ball rolling.
Next, put an action plan together. Set a long-term goal. For example, if you need to lose weight, write down how much weight you plan to lose and by when. Then, start taking small steps. Set weekly goals. Include a healthy diet and exercise in your plan. If you can’t do them at the same time, do what’s most convenient first. However, don’t overstretch yourself. The important thing is to get started.
Or, perhaps you want to learn new skills, increase your knowledge and get a better job. Enroll on a course at college, university, online or take evening classes.
So, whatever it is you need to change, take action. If you do nothing, Your circumstances will not change.
Steps towards a better future
It’s good to have big dreams. Still, dreams alone will only stay in your imagination. Planning and action = results.
I love the story of Mary Kay Ash, a focused, strong woman.
At seven years old her dad developed a seriously debilitating illness. She had to learn to cook, clean and take care of the house while her mum went to work. So, Mary Kay took on the role of a housekeeper.
Mary Kay got married at 17 and had three children. She worked in sales but didn’t progress because of female discrimination in the workplace. Anyhow, after she retired, she used the knowledge from her sales background and set up her company, Mary Kay Cosmetics, in 1963. She ran it with her two sons and daughter. Unfortunately, her husband died during that period.
Nevertheless, Mary Kay didn’t quit. Today, Mary Kay Cosmetics is one of the largest global cosmetics and skin care company. Her inspiration, dedication, and drive changed the lives of many women. She helped thousands fulfill their dreams by starting self-employed careers as Mary Kay beauty consultants around the world.
“There are four kinds of people in this world: Those who make things happen. Those who watch things happen. Those who wondered what happened. Those who don’t know that anything happened.” ~ Mary Kay Ash
Another strong woman story for inspiration is Oprah Winfrey. She went from having nothing to becoming one of the richest and most famous women in America.
Oprah was born to a teenage mother and raised in poverty. Added to that, she was sexually abused by members of her own family.
But, Oprah, determined to change her life, worked hard towards achieving her dreams. It started with her getting a gig at a local radio station. She persevered and got better jobs at other notable radio stations.
Eventually, her life changed after meeting Robert Ebert, who encouraged her to sign a deal. Afterward, the Oprah Winfrey Show was born.
“Turn your wounds into wisdom. The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams. Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody is going to know whether you did it or not.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Finally, a strong woman uses setbacks to propel her towards making a positive change. Not content with being part of the pity party, do all you can to change the scene and change your story.
Over to you…
What is your strong woman story? What obstacles did you overcome to meet a big goal in life? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.
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