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7 Powerful Stress Buster Tips

7 Powerful Stress Buster Tips

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Stress happens to the best of us, doesn’t it? It doesn’t matter who you are, where you live, how much money you have or how beautiful you are.

Control stress. Or it will control you.

You’re bound to face problems in life. Dealing with the death of a loved one, divorce, a new baby, health issues, losing your job, relationships or debt is stressful.

Sometimes it’s impossible to change the situation you find yourself in. But it’s possible to control the stress it brings. If you ignore the fireball inside ready to explode, it will hit you hard. 

You need to know about the implications or how your health will suffer.

Read on to find out…

Stress is a silent killer

Debt is a number one stress booster. 

A friend of mine shared some sad news recently. Someone she knew had financial problems.

So, her mom sent money to help out.

It brought a smile to her friend’s face. With the extra money, she would be able to take care of pressing financial issues. That morning, she got ready to go to the post office to collect the money.

She walked towards the front door.

Halfway  to the door, she collapsed.

But it was a collapse of death. She died instantly.

She didn’t get a chance to use the money to help solve her problems.

Stress had claimed another victim.

Are you next on the list?

Because of our lifestyle, stress is more likely to affect women more than men.

Camile Lloyd, Professor in The Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at The University of Texas Medical School, Houston said, “ Women are probably under more stress than ever before. At work we have more responsibility but less job security. We’re juggling the demands made by our bosses, our kids and our spouses. Our relationships are less secure. Consider the divorce rate. And we’re less likely to have extended and lifelong friends to lean on, since everyone relocates so often.”


Stress doesn’t travel alone

The shocking news is, it comes with deadly excessive baggage.

Deep-rooted stress will develop into life-threatening health problems. The most dangerous ones are high blood pressure, stroke and heart attack. 

Other unhealthy stress-related health issues are:

  • Chronic or severe headaches
  • Weakened immune system
  • Damage to the heart and blood vessels
  • Irritations
  • Anxiety
  • Lack of concentration
  • Insomnia
  • Tiredness
  • Upset stomach
  • Binge eating
  • Back or neck pain

Physical problems such as irritable bowel syndrome, migraines and eczema also belong to this group.

The only way to manage this invader  is to make lifestyle changes.


Here are 7 ways to get stress and its undesirable family out of your life:


1.  Think about happy times

Relax away the stress. When you start to get worked-up, find a quiet space. Go to a room where no one will disturb you.

Think about  happy times. Close your eyes and breathe slowly. Bring that happy time to life in your mind. Remember the way you laughed. Think about the person who made you happy. Imagine giving them a long hug. As you do, smile and pretend you’re back in that moment. Do that for 5 minutes. Your mood will change.


2.  Laugh, laugh and laugh some more

When stress kicks in, laugh it off. Every time you laugh, your heart, lungs and muscles get a gentle, wholesome massage. Doesn’t it feel sensational when someone gives you a massage?  

Imagine how your internal organs feel when they get a massage. There’s nothing better for calming you.

When you need some relief from stress, hang out with friends and family who make you laugh. Or watch a side-splitting comedy film. A good (laugh till your belly hurts) laugh will make you feel on top form.

Laughing lets off endorphins from your brains. It sparks the feel-good chemicals in your body.


3.  Sing the blues away

It doesn’t matter if you’re not the next X Factor candidate. Singing is a wonder cure for getting rid of stress.

Singing lowers cortisol hormones. Exercising your lungs makes you happy, reduces your heart rate and puts you in a warm relaxed mood.

According to an article in the Guardian, “Doctors believe that singing is valuable aerobic exercise, encouraging better posture and deeper breathing. It is also thought that singing releases endorphins in the body, which relieve pain and reduce stress. Using singing as a therapy for relaxation, overcoming depression and anxiety, and even treating clinically serious mental-health problems, is a growing movement.” (Source)

Singing stimulates a nerve (vagus) that’s located at the back of your throat and sinus. During a singing session, your body unwinds and is less stressed.

So, next time you’re tense, belt out a song. Your neighbors might not appreciate it. But you’ll feel super-duper. To keep them happy, knock on their door and apologise later.


4.  Relax those muscles

Have you heard of a technique called progressive relaxation? When you’re worked up and your body feels knotted, try it.

Go to a quiet room and make yourself comfortable. Sit or lie down on a sofa or bed.

First, close your eyes.

Next, curl your toes (bend them as far back as possible) for 10 seconds. After a count of 10, unbend them.

Lastly, work the other parts of your body. Squeeze and relax your feet, legs, stomach, fingers, arms, neck and face.

This exercise will progressively get rid of tension from your toes to the crown of your head. That is, you’ll be releasing stress from your body.


5.  Take a walk

 According to scientists, walking can soothe the brains. Jogging or walking fast activates neurons in the brains. You can walk away stress.

I can testify to that.  One evening, my daughter and I had a blazing row. Anger took over. I had to get out of the house.

So, I went for a long walk around the block. By the time I got back home, my head was clear. And I felt calm and relaxed.

Walking triggers nerve cells in the brains. It impacts the senses and calms you down.


6. Think positively

If your purse didn’t have a lot of money in it, would you think it’s half empty or half full? Your answer will tell if you’re an optimistic (positive) or pessimistic (negative) person. 

Positive thinking is good for your health.

Some of the benefits are:

  • Reduced stress levels
  • Lower risks of heart attacks
  • Being able to manage stress
  • Increased life span

Have you noticed how positive people also live a healthy lifestyle? They exercise, don’t smoke, eat a healthy diet and limit the amount of alcohol they drink.

So how do you think positively?

It starts with your thoughts. They shape who you are.

“Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last 20 years,  is that individuals can choose the way they think.” ~ Martin Seligman, Learned Optimism

Thinking positively will eventually change your mindset. It takes time. But the more you do it, the easier it gets.

Negative thoughts or self-talk  and worries will go.  Instead of always seeing the bad, you’ll see the positives in the mess.

A few years ago I lost my dad, ex husband and two-week-old grandson within 9 months. It was the most traumatic experiences of my life. I could have taken drugs, drowned my sorrows in alcohol or had meaningless relationships with men to cope with the deaths.

But, I chose to use that daunting experience to make me a stronger woman. I focused on my children and poured my love into them. If I had given into wallowing in self-pity, I probably would have had a nervous breakdown.

It was difficult. But I made the choice to turn a bad situation into one I could cope with.

If you’re struggling with negative thoughts, take small steps to change your thought patterns. Don’t beat yourself up. Talk to people who can help you. And surround yourself with positive people. Their optimism will rub off on you.


7.  Drink lots of chamomile tea

Did you know that the Ancient Greeks used chamomile for healing? It’s packed with magnesium and calcium. There’s also potassium, zinc and iron in this wonder tea.

It’s a great stress buster tea, especially for panic attacks. It will take away the jittery feelings and calm you down.

Drinking one cup three times a day can have a soothing effect on you. 

When, and if stress comes knocking on your health door, how will you react? Will you let it in to take control? Or will you take action to keep it away? I’m sure you don’t want to be the next victim. Living with stress is a nightmare.

Photo credit: Pixabay.com

Have you ever been hit by stress? How did you deal with it? Can you add to these tips?





About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney


  1. Dear June,

    Your posts are always so well researched, insightful and worth the read to the last word.I exercise, listen to music, get lost in reading others’ stories of resilience and l cheer myself up often saying: “Ayo, you know it can only get better, there is strength in what remains girl, don’t give in to this stress, you know you can stress it out by forging ahead right?” That may be self therapy but it works for me.

    Kind regards, Marie author of My Unconventional Loves, My Hurts, My Adulteries, My Redemption
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    • Hi Marie,

      I like to give the best when I write. 🙂

      I love the way you talk positively to yourself. That’s one of the best ways of dealing with stress. Like I said in the post, your thoughts have a lot to do with how you function. And I agree, what you do is self therapy. Thanks for sharing this tip. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Have a lovely day.

      June Whittle June Whittle


  2. Hey June!!

    I love these tips. I’ve found that I’ve been really stressed this week. I’ve begun to focus more on healthy eating and exercise, which has taken up a bit more of my time. When I’m overwhelmed and stressed, I tend to do nothing instead of being productive.

    I really like the idea of thinking positively. What gets me to be more positive is watching an inspirational video such as those for TED, reading a great quote, or listening to a sermon. I find that listening to someone else helps a lot.

    Thanks for the share!

    Jennifer Kennedy


    • Hi Jennifer,

      I’ve been a little stressed myself. It caused my blood pressure to raise. So’ I’ve been eating healthy and walking lots. Cooking healthily does take up more time but it’s worth it.

      I listen to praise and worship or reggae music when I feel tense. It helps to unwind me. Listening to sermons also helps to take my mind of negative thoughts.

      Thanks for stopping by. Enjoy your week. 🙂

      June Whittle June Whittle


  3. Hey June,

    Stress is what took my ex-best friend’s husband over 11 years ago. He was having horrible financial problems and he hadn’t told his wife. She he finally did of course they almost got a divorce over it but she finally convinced him that 1) he needed to see a doctor and 2) they needed to go to counseling.

    He passed away on the day of his doctor’s appointment. It was devastating to us all. He was 43 years old and left behind a 19 year old step daughter and a 5 year old son.

    It’s the silent killer and although everything you mentioned can probably help for the moment, more serious help is definitely needed. Big huge problems are the cause of this and you can’t think them away.

    Great advice though and I’m sure it can them start to think of other things until they can get the real issue dealt with.

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    • Hi Adrienne,

      Thanks for sharing this sad story. What a shame. I can imagine the shock his death must have caused.

      A lot of people don’t realise the impact of stress on our body. It is indeed a silent killer. I need to watch it myself as my blood pressure is slightly raised at the moment. I worry too much. My daughter is always telling me not to let things get to me. But you know, working from home as a self employed carries its own stress.

      Thanks for pointing out that sometimes more serious help is needed. Stress runs deep and we can’t always manage it on our own.

      Have a good week. 🙂

      June Whittle June Whittle


  4. Wow! I had no idea camomile tea provided stress relief. I just thought it was good for sleeping. I have a cup now and then when i’m having a hard time falling asleep. I’m definatly going to start drinking more now throughout the day. Thanks for the great pointer! 🙂



    • Chamomile tea is a fantastic stress buster. It really does calm you down. I tried it and it works.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. 🙂

      June June



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