3 Ways Writing Heals Toxic Emotions in Your Soul
Writing is a wonderful healing therapy for releasing emotional pain, frustration, anger and more. It’s not healthy to store toxic junk inside. Pour all the angry, bitter, sad or stinging feelings onto paper. Flush out the toxic emotions from your soul.
Imagine writing as a punching bag. Use it to get rid of all the tension bottled up inside you. Release the burdens and free yourself.
Writing is also another means of silent communication. It’s between your mind and the words you pour out on paper.
This technique is useful. It’s safe. It’s personal. It’s just you, your pen, paper or computer. And it’s a time when you can process your emotional state and express yourself.
Writing and abuse
Living in an abusive relationship with a man who is also addicted to infidelity is damaging. Bottling up the pain and shame (toxic rubbish) has a knock-on effect on your overall well-being.
You know it’s not healthy to stay with him. But your heart is telling you DON’T GO.
Therefore, you stay and…
- Keep on loving him between the blows and emotional abuse.
- Swallow the degrading words he spews at you.
- Angrily watch him walk out the door and go to his other women.
- The pain and frustration push you deeper into misery.
- You get on the guilt trip and blame yourself for what you’re going through.
- Your self-esteem sinks a little lower every day.
- You walk around with your face dragging to the ground looking drained and angry.
Some people might ask, “Why don’t you leave him?”
Still, it’s not always so simple. There are many issues to deal with, especially if you have children. So, you clutch on to the toxic relationship, hoping one day, maybe one day, he will stop. And life will be sweet again. But will it?
While you’re in this situation (besides seeking professional help) write away the emotional pain. Free your mind. Write and flush out the poison from your soul. Surprisingly, writing will comfort and soothe you. If you can’t express yourself verbally, writing it on paper helps to relieve the hurt inside.
Surprisingly, writing will comfort and soothe you. If you can’t express yourself verbally, writing it on paper helps to relieve the hurt inside.
“Writing is therapeutic. It helps you cope with issues that seem gargantuan at the time. The process of expressing yourself about a problem, editing your thoughts, and writing some more can help you control issues that you face.” ~ Guy Kawasaki
Writing releases poisonous emotional pain
While I was writing my book, Deep Within my Soul, depression, resentment and other venomous feelings tried to take control of my mind. I wanted to give up and stop writing. All the same, I’m glad I carried on because healing took place while I wrote. I went through various emotions which were necessary for me to let go of the past and free my mind.
Writing heals. I can testify to that. Also, many people all over the world will bear witness to this amazing method.
You don’t have to show anyone what you’ve written. After you write, tear it up, burn it or keep it locked away in a secret place. The most important thing is unburdening your psychological state of mind onto paper.
Although writing can sometimes cut into old or existing wounds, you’re in control. You can choose to stop anytime you want. Go for a walk, clear your head, talk to God or do whatever will bring peace.
Use one or more of the writing methods below to dump the rubbish cluttering your soul…
“Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.” ~ William Wordsworth
You don’t need special skills or training to write poems. I used to think you did. Until the day I was compelled to write or explode from anger and shock.
Writing poems is ideal as a type of expression for therapeutic purposes. Burying negative feelings can develop into other toxic emotional issues. This healing process allows you to release hostility.
Don’t worry about rhyming when writing poems. Also, if the tears flow, let them flow. Crying is a sign that you’re tapping into imprisoned emotions and healing is taking place. Write what is in your heart, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. Get them out from the inside of you and let them go.
Maybe it’s difficult to talk to the person who abused or hurt you. Write a poem for them instead. Keep the poem private if you prefer.
I wrote poems from a place of deep pain when I lived in abusive relationships. They were love poems from my broken heart. I wrote to heal my heart and escape to a place of calmness. Read some of the poems in my book, Deep Within my Soul.
Daily journaling is a proven journey of healing. Your deep inner thoughts are between you and your journal. You don’t ever have to share it with anyone if you don’t want to. There are many types of journals available. You can buy blank ones with lined pages, verses of scriptures, inspirational quotes to motivate yourself or other types. Choose the journal that’s best for you
Write when you feel the need. This could be in the morning, afternoon, evening or night. Find a quiet place and start your journal writing. Remember, it’s your private writing. Nobody else has to see it.
Unshackle your emotions. Don’t hold back. Release the bitterness. Describe the incident bothering you. Recalling how you felt while it was happening will help the healing process. Also, by reading it back you’re able to reflect, assess and put things in perspective.
In addition, it’s not wise to carry harmful baggage inside. Write in your journal and leave them there. Besides, learn what you can from your damaging experiences. Identify the lessons from the pain and use them to enhance your life.
In case you didn’t know, blogging is like healing tonic. Time spent at the computer, blogging, is a great outlet for stress. While you’re writing you will feel calm, focused and free to express yourself. Think of it as an escape from the problems causing tension or frustration. If you need some space to write in private, take your laptop to the park, library or somewhere discreet.
And also, you could keep a private blog. You don’t have to publish your writings. However, it depends on why you want to blog in the first place. Perhaps you only want to release the pain from your heart by writing for yourself.
However, if you want to reach out to others, that’s great. Sharing your experiences with other people who are in a similar position will inspire and encourage them.
It’s a wonderful feeling knowing you’re doing something positive and worthwhile. When readers leave comments on your blog, email you and call to tell you you’re making a difference, it will raise your spirit. As well as take your mind off your problems.
Moreover, share your story. Start a community to enrich and empower others who need support and inspiration. They will be keen to read about your experiences. You will be the best person to help them because you’ve gone through what they are now undergoing. As you help others you’ll also be experiencing healing. And, you’re getting rid of the heavyweight burdens as you turn your mess into positive messages.
Writing has changed my life in many ways. It can change yours too.
Many years ago I wrote poems to help manage heartaches. The emotional release I felt afterward stimulated me to write more. Moving on, a few years later, a lifestyle magazine editor commissioned me to write an article. It was about men who struggled to accept their relationships had ended.
As the years went by, I discovered I had a desire for various types of writing. I started this blog, Miraculous Ladies in 2011. Three years ago I quit my teaching job to pursue a freelance writing career.
Write away all the undesirable stuff inside that’s stunting your growth. It’s holding you back from living a rewarding life. On top of that, you never know what you will find out about yourself until you put pen to paper. Perhaps you’ll also discover you have a hidden writing talent.
Over to you…
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