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3 Ways Writing Heals Toxic Emotions in Your Soul

3 Ways Writing Heals Toxic Emotions in Your Soul

By in Abuse, Lifestyle, Woman's Challenges | 16 comments

Writing is a wonderful healing therapy for releasing emotional pain, frustration, anger and more. It’s not healthy to store toxic junk inside. Pour all the angry, bitter, sad or stinging feelings onto paper. Flush out the toxic emotions from your soul.

Imagine writing as a punching bag. Use it to get rid of all the tension bottled up inside you. Release the burdens and free yourself.

Writing is also another means of silent communication. It’s between your mind and the words you pour out on paper.

This technique is useful. It’s safe. It’s personal. It’s just you, your pen, paper or computer. And it’s a time when you can process your emotional state and express yourself.

 

Writing and abuse

Living in an abusive relationship with a man who is also addicted to infidelity is damaging. Bottling up the pain and shame (toxic rubbish) has a knock-on effect on your overall well-being.

You know it’s not healthy to stay with him. But your heart is telling you DON’T GO.

Therefore, you stay and…

  •        Keep on loving him between the blows and emotional abuse.
  •        Swallow the degrading words he spews at you.
  •        Angrily watch him walk out the door and go to his other women.
  •        The pain and frustration push you deeper into misery.
  •        You get on the guilt trip and blame yourself for what you’re going through.
  •        Your self-esteem sinks a little lower every day.
  •        You walk around with your face dragging to the ground looking drained and angry.

Some people might ask, “Why don’t you leave him?”

Still, it’s not always so simple. There are many issues to deal with, especially if you have children. So, you clutch on to the toxic relationship, hoping one day, maybe one day, he will stop. And life will be sweet again. But will it?

While you’re in this situation (besides seeking professional help) write away the emotional pain. Free your mind. Write and flush out the poison from your soul. Surprisingly, writing will comfort and soothe you. If you can’t express yourself verbally, writing it on paper helps to relieve the hurt inside.

Surprisingly, writing will comfort and soothe you. If you can’t express yourself verbally, writing it on paper helps to relieve the hurt inside.

“Writing is therapeutic. It helps you cope with issues that seem gargantuan at the time. The process of expressing yourself about a problem, editing your thoughts, and writing some more can help you control issues that you face.” ~ Guy Kawasaki

 

Writing releases poisonous emotional pain

While I was writing my book, Deep Within my Soul, depression, resentment and other venomous feelings tried to take control of my mind. I wanted to give up and stop writing. All the same, I’m glad I carried on because healing took place while I wrote. I went through various emotions which were necessary for me to let go of the past and free my mind.

Writing heals. I can testify to that. Also, many people all over the world will bear witness to this amazing method.

You don’t have to show anyone what you’ve written. After you write, tear it up, burn it or keep it locked away in a secret place. The most important thing is unburdening your psychological state of mind onto paper.

Although writing can sometimes cut into old or existing wounds, you’re in control. You can choose to stop anytime you want. Go for a walk, clear your head, talk to God or do whatever will bring peace.

Use one or more of the writing methods below to dump the rubbish cluttering your soul…

 

 

Poems

 

“Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.” ~ William Wordsworth

 

You don’t need special skills or training to write poems. I used to think you did. Until the day I was compelled to write or explode from anger and shock.

Writing poems is ideal as a type of expression for therapeutic purposes. Burying negative feelings can develop into other toxic emotional issues. This healing process allows you to release hostility.

Don’t worry about rhyming when writing poems. Also, if the tears flow, let them flow. Crying is a sign that you’re tapping into imprisoned emotions and healing is taking place. Write what is in your heart, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. Get them out from the inside of you and let them go.           

Maybe it’s difficult to talk to the person who abused or hurt you. Write a poem for them instead. Keep the poem private if you prefer.

I wrote poems from a place of deep pain when I lived in abusive relationships. They were love poems from my broken heart. I wrote to heal my heart and escape to a place of calmness. Read some of the poems in my book, Deep Within my Soul 

 

Journaling

Daily journaling is a proven journey of healing. Your deep inner thoughts are between you and your journal. You don’t ever have to share it with anyone if you don’t want to. There are many types of journals available. You can buy blank ones with lined pages, verses of scriptures, inspirational quotes to motivate yourself or other types. Choose the journal that’s best for you

Write when you feel the need. This could be in the morning, afternoon, evening or night. Find a quiet place and start your journal writing. Remember, it’s your private writing. Nobody else has to see it.

Unshackle your emotions. Don’t hold back. Release the bitterness. Describe the incident bothering you. Recalling how you felt while it was happening will help the healing process. Also, by reading it back you’re able to reflect, assess and put things in perspective. 

In addition, it’s not wise to carry harmful baggage inside. Write in your journal and leave them there. Besides, learn what you can from your damaging experiences. Identify the lessons from the pain and use them to enhance your life.

 

Blogging

In case you didn’t know, blogging is like healing tonic. Time spent at the computer, blogging, is a great outlet for stress. While you’re writing you will feel calm, focused and free to express yourself. Think of it as an escape from the problems causing tension or frustration. If you need some space to write in private, take your laptop to the park, library or somewhere discreet.

And also, you could keep a private blog. You don’t have to publish your writings. However, it depends on why you want to blog in the first place. Perhaps you only want to release the pain from your heart by writing for yourself.

However, if you want to reach out to others, that’s great. Sharing your experiences with other people who are in a similar position will inspire and encourage them.

It’s a wonderful feeling knowing you’re doing something positive and worthwhile. When readers leave comments on your blog, email you and call to tell you you’re making a difference, it will raise your spirit. As well as take your mind off your problems.

Moreover, share your story. Start a community to enrich and empower others who need support and inspiration. They will be keen to read about your experiences. You will be the best person to help them because you’ve gone through what they are now undergoing. As you help others you’ll also be experiencing healing. And, you’re getting rid of the heavyweight burdens as you turn your mess into positive messages.

Writing has changed my life in many ways. It can change yours too.

Many years ago I wrote poems to help manage heartaches. The emotional release I felt afterward stimulated me to write more. Moving on, a few years later, a lifestyle magazine editor commissioned me to write an article. It was about men who struggled to accept their relationships had ended. 

As the years went by, I discovered I had a desire for various types of writing. I started this blog, Miraculous Ladies in 2011. Three years ago I quit my teaching job to pursue a freelance writing career. 

Write away all the undesirable stuff inside that’s stunting your growth. It’s holding you back from living a rewarding life. On top of that, you never know what you will find out about yourself until you put pen to paper. Perhaps you’ll also discover you have a hidden writing talent.

 

Over to you…

Do you write when you’re feeling stressed, frustrated or angry? Please share with us in the comment box below.

Help someone else benefit from reading this article. Share it on Facebook and Twitter. Thank you. 

 

 

June

About June

June Whittle is the founder of Miraculous Ladies, an author, freelance copywriter and professional blogger for hire. She works with small businesses, bloggers and individuals. She is also an author of a self-help and autobiography book “Deep Within my Soul: Hope after abuse”. Miraculous means extraordinary and Lady is a polite or formal way of referring to an amazing woman. That's you. You're a beautiful, strong, incredible, dynamic and powerful woman. Live your dreams. "If you can dream it, you can do it." ~ Walt Disney

    16 Comments

  1. Great Job. Very interesting article. Thank you very much for sharing these amazing tips.

    Flex

    07/09/2016

    • Thank you for your comment. 🙂

      June June

      05/02/2017

  2. Hi June, Thanks for this awe-inspiring article about toxic poisons in the soul. Where can I get your book “Deep Within my Soul”?

    C.M. Jean

    10/12/2016

    • Thanks for stopping by to find out where to get my book, Clover. It’s going to be published this week on Amazon. I will have a link to it on my blog in an article.

      Have a good week. 🙂

      June June

      11/12/2016

  3. Hi June,
    Awesome article you posted here!Very very amazing and useful article….
    I will buy your book “Deep Within My Soul”…..when you will publish that book in amazon?
    Have a nice day. 🙂

    Lisa Smith

    13/12/2016

    • Hi Lisa,

      Thank you very much. I really appreciate your support. Writing has been a life-saver for me, especially when going through abuse. It kept my mind calm. I have spoken to lots of women who have used writing for therapeutic reasons. It really does work. My book will be out early next week.

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Enjoy the rest of the week. 🙂

      June June

      15/12/2016

  4. June, this post is right on time. I actually used to practice journaling in my teens and twenties religiously. I am a very intense emotional personality and things affect me deeply and I too can feel and express all of those deep toxic emotions and often in the wrong space to the people who can’t fully take it. I found myself doing that and I just felt like I need to write, pulled out an old spiral note book tabbed a few pages in the back and let it all out. It is empowering and the safest place to release yourself of all of the things that can consume us. Thank you for the validation and reminder of something I need to incorporate in my self care.

    Angel

    22/01/2017

    • Angel, thank you for confirming that writing is a powerful healing therapy for releasing toxic emotions. Like you said, it’s better to vent it out in your spiral notepad than blast people with your emotions. Writing saves you arguing or upsetting them. Very wise move.

      If it wasn’t for writing poems when I was abusive relationships, I would have gone crazy. Writing is a wonderful outlet. And the beauty of it is you don’t have to show your writing to anyone. It’s private and between you, your notepad, journal, diary or whatever else you choose to use.

      I will be offering my readers ‘writing away toxic emotional junk’ workshops soon. I’m thinking of ways to set up virtual workshops (for those not local to me) for women in different countries so everyone can benefit.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Angel. Have a great week. 🙂

      June June

      23/01/2017

  5. Again! it’s an amazing article ….I really liked it

    Thanks alot Lisa 🙂

    salena

    25/01/2017

    • Thanks for reading, Salena. 🙂

      June June

      25/01/2017

  6. This is a very impressive post indeed.This is very helpful and conducive post. Thanks for sharing this post.

    Riley Camila

    21/03/2017

    • I’m glad you found it useful Riley. Thanks for your comments.

      June June

      26/03/2017

  7. I enjoy reading your posts. I have always thought of blogging but don’t know how to get it noticed. Also do you have any posts on exercises to release guilt and shame from the abuse? I was sexually abused by my biological father from age 3 until he moved out at 15. I’ve had years and years of counseling and raised 3 terrific hidden who are all working with families. I’m so proud I broke the cycle of abuse but still succumb to depression and anxiety as I am fighting now and I still get those negative shameful ridden feelings. Depression has a way of grabbing our thoughts and only thinking of negative thoughts. I’m finding your site and any others that have tips on forgiving my father now dead but also forgiving myself for being so hard on myself. Forgiveness I’m learning is a big part of moving on.

    Kim

    03/04/2017

    • Hi Kim,

      Thank you. I love the idea that you’ve considered blogging. If that’s something you want to take further, I can help you.

      I will write a blog post about how to release guilt and shame from abuse. I’m sure others will benefit as well. But to let you know, I will be hosting therapeutic writing workshops soon. Are you based in the UK? If you’re not, I’m also going to be hosting virtual workshops. While writing my book I realised there are many people walking around with lots of toxic junk inside that they need to release. The writing workshops will help them to get rid of it by writing it out of their systems. Is that something you will be interested in? Also, can I suggest buying my book “Deep Within my Soul”? I think it will help you. The link is on my website on the menu bar under ‘Books I Recommend’. I shared a story of a woman who was also sexually abused by her uncle in the book.

      Your story is so sad. I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s really awful. I can’t understand what goes through the head of men who could do that to their children. But thank God you managed to break the cycle. Depression can be hard to get rid of but I can see you’re trying to take control. Good for you. And you are so right about forgiveness. I had to do that because unforgiveness towards my abusers kept my mind enslaved. When you can get to that place of forgiveness, it will give you total freedom. There’s a whole chapter about forgiveness in my book as well. Forgiving yourself is equally important, otherwise it will tie you up in knots. Unforgiveness also creates lots of health issues.

      I’m really glad you read this article and left a comment. If you’re interested in the therapeutic workshops please drop me an email and I’ll let you know when it’s up and running. My email address is miraculousladies@hotmail.co.uk. Also, please let me know about the blogging.

      Have a good week. 🙂

      June June

      04/04/2017

    • You’re welcome. Thanks for reading. 🙂

      June June

      01/05/2017

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